writing for healing ...
I have always been Passionate about writing poems, real stories and experiences ... we are all story tellers, telling stories is part of our existence and it is a function of our innate mind.
Telling stories requires fearless imagination, and telling your own story requires courage and bravery ...
(Amel Abada)
“ There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside you.”
(Maya Angelou)
I nner power, inner nature and inner beauty…
your self-power is the power that belongs to you, it comes from the field of your inner being, which is a field of pure potentiality. The immeasurable potential of all that was … all that is … and all that will be. When you shift your identity into your inner most being, then you unfold this potential you are in tune and touch with your perfection, which is independent of the good and bad opinion of the world, which is totally fearless, which is beneath no one and also superior to no one. When you get in touch of this part of your self, you will find that your consciousness which is self-organizing, self-evolving self-sufficient, spontaneous, detached, dynamic, blissful, all-knowing is the organizing power of the universe. Because your self is the ground state of your existence, and it is at the same time the ground state of everything you make exist. (Deepak Chopra)
Your inner beauty
” The greatest thing in the world is to know how to belong to oneself …”
your outer world is a reflection of your inner world, your inner world is your mind, your thoughts, your soul, your spirit, and the harmony between all of them.
your mind is a powerful force, it can enslave you or empower you, it can plunge you in the depth of the misery or take you to the heights of Ecstasy … learn to use the power wisely.
The revolutionary act of telling your story …
Story telling is an art, it is the art of drawing details of a particular world in an artistic way, stories may detail a family dynamic, they may present a specific moment in the history or a specific moment in your own history, they may tell about a significant moment in your life or a significant period of your life, they may tell about your impact in people’s life or the impact of particular people in your life.
Stories can be not only a way of connecting with people, but an opportunity to distance one self from traumatic and painful experiences…
Telling stories needs specific techniques, it needs the ability of grabbing attention, it needs the show of feelings and emotions, it needs a chain of cause and effect to create good dynamic chain-able coherence, and it needs concrete specific details which is the life block of story telling, but …. none of these techniques mean any thing without authenticity.
When telling your own story, the story will lose a lots of its characteristics, there is no guide lines, no road map, no strict rules. Your story will not cross the place and space boundaries, it will not create exciting events, and it will not tell people what they want to hear, it will not use imagination as required for other stories, it will only be ”Authentic” and you will be the main character playing roles that you haven’t chose or designed, exploring the unknown and continuously facing the unexpected …
It is … the only story that never ends.
Authenticity is the spirit of real stories, it is the secret that makes your story unique, and at the same time it is a magnet. This magnet seems small and simple but it commends an invisible power, it determines whether or not people will take your story home with them and think about it …
In fact authenticity in practice is not invisible, it can be heard in your tone, it can be seen in your body language, it can be felt by your listener. Authenticity is basically a way of saying:” I trust you to see who I truly am”.
In fact authenticity in practice is not invisible, it can be heard in your tone, it can be seen in your body language, it can be felt by your listener. Authenticity is basically a way of saying:” I trust you to see who I truly am”.
Sharing your own story with the whole world can be a little scary, but at the same time, it can be of an incredible impact in changing people’s life.
( Amel Abada )
The story of the unaccepted change …
” It is not the strongest of the species that survives … nor the most intelligent … but the one that is most adaptable to change …” (Charles Darwin)
” It is not the strongest of the species that survives … nor the most intelligent … but the one that is most adaptable to change …” (Charles Darwin)
Fate isn’t something that you have to accept, but something you must always endeavor with change, to mold and shape to your will … because when you think that your life can never get any better, or that things will never change; you lose hope and you give up on life, on yourself, forgetting that you are not just giving up on yourself, it is not just you who has been disappointed, it is also everyone who has ever believed in you and saw your true potential even when you couldn’t … everyone who has ever looked up to you … every life you impacted, and every one who has ever loved you ….
Once you relinquish your fear, your mind is liberated from all obstructions, illuminated as brightly, as sparkling crystal in the radiating burst of sunlight… free …. the part that is difficult is being strong enough to let go, to be able to fall off the edge without worrying you will fall, instead …. discovering the courage to fly ….
Never get afraid of change …. you may lose something good but you may get something better, photoshop your life, touch up the edges, adjust the tone, blur the background …. focus on you and crop people out, thank people who walked into your life and made it better, and give thanks to people who walked out of your life and made it amazing ….
'' If you don't tell your story yourself no one else will ... and courage is to tell the story of who you are with your whole heart ...''
(Brene Brown)
” Story … is the song line of a person’s life … we need to sing it and we need someone to hear the singing, Story told … story heard … story written … and story read creates the web of life in words …. ”
one of the hardest decisions you need to make is whether you walk inside your own story and own it …. or you step outside your story and hustle for your worthiness ….
Telling the story of your pain requires courage, but in the end, it will change the reality of who you are …..
one of the hardest decisions you need to make is whether you walk inside your own story and own it …. or you step outside your story and hustle for your worthiness ….
Telling the story of your pain requires courage, but in the end, it will change the reality of who you are …..
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Someday we will forget the hurt, the reason why we cried and what caused us the pain … we will finally realize that the secret of being free is not revenge, but letting things unfold in there own way and own time ….
After all what matters is not the first but the last chapter of our story which shows how well we run the race ….
After all what matters is not the first but the last chapter of our story which shows how well we run the race ….
People you wish you haven’t met …
” If I could unmeet some people …
I would…”
I would…”
” You meet thousands of people and none of them touch your heart … and then you meet one person and your life is never the same again …”
People have scars in all sorts of unexpected places, just like secret road maps of their personal life experiences, diagrams of all their old wounds … most of our wounds heal leaving nothing behind but scar … but some of them don’t, some wounds we carry with us wherever we go, and though the cut’s long gone, the pain still lingers ….
” Some times you have to meet people where they are … and most of the time you must leave them where they are, because (there) is where they only belong .. . ”
Some people don’t walk into your life peacefully, they suddenly cross your path and push themselves into your life without any permission, creating all kinds of noise and mess and emotional storms and force you to go through unexpected experiences and discoveries until you accept them, then you like them, and you like everything about them. But, within all this they are deciding not to stay in your life, bringing you to the point where you realize that some people can stay in your heart but not in your life, because they are not meant to fit into your life no matter how much you want them to ….. creating in your mind that sound that never stop yelling and saying: ”if I could unmeet them I would”.
” A new year … a new destination …”
(Amel Abada)
I wouldn’t say a year is gone … or two, or three, or four, and happy new one…
But I would rather say… nice things passed and welcome better ones,
But I would rather say… nice things passed and welcome better ones,
” Throughout your life you will meet one person who is like no one else … ”
(Amel Abada)
(Amel Abada)
Year’s end is neither an end nor a beginning…. it is just a bend in our ongoing journey,
You either take it to the right… or to the left…
Whichever direction you are taking your bend, I wish you will find the better of everything good…
Better joyful times with your family… better loving hearts around you…
A better ladder to climb up to the highest pinnacle of success…
A better key to all the happiness of the world,
Sadeem,
Have delightful little surprises, sunshine of happiness, moonbeam of peace, and oodles of love that never ends….
As the calendar turns a new page over, and the New Year begins, here comes the time where you think about all those people in your life…
Who made life more shiny, more meaningful and more beautiful – and you have been one of those in my professional and personal life.
You… created your place inside my heart, and I….will look after it for an endless time
In the recent year, you filled up the chapters of my professional life with pages of support and hope… just never stop doing so in the upcoming year (s).
In the recent year I held you heavily in my heart and I will never get tired doing so…. Although…
You’ve been so heavy… and so powerful…
When you hatch your upcoming year’s plan… fit me in…
And when you write the story of your new year, just put my name…put it in bold, so whenever you go through your story and you see my name, you’ll smile and say… this person did nothing special for me, she only….
Loved me.
( Happy new year, Amel Abada
2016)
First impression…
” You never get a second chance to make a first impression …”
(Andrew Grant)
(Andrew Grant)
when I first met her I wasn’t thinking about what she wants and what she doesn’t want, she meant so much to me, but at the same time she never got my point,
In the end people only regret the chances they didn’t take…
In the end people only regret the chances they didn’t take…
Perspective
'' It is not what you look at ... it is what you see ...''
WE SEE NO MORE THAN WE EXPECT TO SEE …
Our stereotyped notions block clear vision and crowd out imagination. This happens without any alarms sounding, so we never realize it is occurring. Not long ago, a man sat at a metro station in Washington DC and started to play the violin. It was a cold January morning. He played six Bach pieces for about 45 minutes. During that time, since it was rush hour, it was calculated that thousands of people went through the station.
One man stopped for a few seconds and then hurried on to meet his schedule. A little later, a woman threw a dollar into the till and without stopping continued on her way. The first person who paid the most attention was a 3 year old boy. Finally the mother pushed hard and the child continued to walk turning his head all the time. This action was repeated by several other children. In the 45 minutes the musician played, only the children it seemed wanted to stop and listen.
When he finished playing and silence took over, no one noticed it. No one applauded, nor was there any recognition. No one knew this but the violinist was Joshua Bell, one of the best musicians in the world. He played one of the most intricate pieces ever written with a violin worth 3.5 million dollars. Two days before his playing in the subway, Joshua Bell sold out at a theater in Boston and the seats averaged $100.00.
Joshua Bell playing incognito in the metro station was organized by the Washington Post as part of a social experiment. Because he was playing in a subway station, people assumed he was a street musician playing for handouts and paid no attention to his music. They saw and heard what they expected to see and hear from a street musician.
Thumbs up to the children who had the awareness they were listening to extraordinary music.
One man stopped for a few seconds and then hurried on to meet his schedule. A little later, a woman threw a dollar into the till and without stopping continued on her way. The first person who paid the most attention was a 3 year old boy. Finally the mother pushed hard and the child continued to walk turning his head all the time. This action was repeated by several other children. In the 45 minutes the musician played, only the children it seemed wanted to stop and listen.
When he finished playing and silence took over, no one noticed it. No one applauded, nor was there any recognition. No one knew this but the violinist was Joshua Bell, one of the best musicians in the world. He played one of the most intricate pieces ever written with a violin worth 3.5 million dollars. Two days before his playing in the subway, Joshua Bell sold out at a theater in Boston and the seats averaged $100.00.
Joshua Bell playing incognito in the metro station was organized by the Washington Post as part of a social experiment. Because he was playing in a subway station, people assumed he was a street musician playing for handouts and paid no attention to his music. They saw and heard what they expected to see and hear from a street musician.
Thumbs up to the children who had the awareness they were listening to extraordinary music.
Invitation to life and existence …
I invited her for coffee and ....
'' I was only trying to practice life in its deepest and meaningful form...''
(Amel Abada)
Life is just like a party … you invite a lot of people … some leave early, some stay all night, some laugh with you and some laugh at you, some show up late and some decide not to come … but in the end, after the fun there are only few who stay to help you clean up the mess, and most of the time they are even not the ones who made the mess, these are the ones who matter most.
‘’Be strong’’ I whispered to my coffee when it was rejected, coffee is more than a beverage, it is an invitation to life … At some point in your life you will need to find the person that knows how you drink your coffee, the person that is willing to practice life on the same way you do, you may love some times to get lost in a world made of rainy days, books, people you love, and coffee …Inviting people for a coffee is not inviting them to our perfect homes, it is inviting them to our imperfect hearts …
I enjoyed both cups of coffee alone in my kitchen, but I decided drinking mine out of a clear mug, so I could see where my tolerance level is at …
None of us is getting out of here alive, so, stop treating yourself like an after-thought … sleep well, eat the delicious food, walk in the sunshine and walk under the rain, jump in the ocean, fly in the air … say the truth you are carrying in your heart like a hidden treasure, value people who love you, be silly, be kind, be mysterious, be weird and don’t be afraid to enjoy a cup of coffee when you are invited to…
(written by Amel Abada)
‘’Be strong’’ I whispered to my coffee when it was rejected, coffee is more than a beverage, it is an invitation to life … At some point in your life you will need to find the person that knows how you drink your coffee, the person that is willing to practice life on the same way you do, you may love some times to get lost in a world made of rainy days, books, people you love, and coffee …Inviting people for a coffee is not inviting them to our perfect homes, it is inviting them to our imperfect hearts …
I enjoyed both cups of coffee alone in my kitchen, but I decided drinking mine out of a clear mug, so I could see where my tolerance level is at …
None of us is getting out of here alive, so, stop treating yourself like an after-thought … sleep well, eat the delicious food, walk in the sunshine and walk under the rain, jump in the ocean, fly in the air … say the truth you are carrying in your heart like a hidden treasure, value people who love you, be silly, be kind, be mysterious, be weird and don’t be afraid to enjoy a cup of coffee when you are invited to…
(written by Amel Abada)
When it is time
to fly ….
” Never look back when you decide to leave …the unknown that you are dying to step in is in front”
(Amel Abada)
”You will never leave a place you love …
you go away …. taking a part of it along with you ….
and leaving a part of you behind… ”
you go away …. taking a part of it along with you ….
and leaving a part of you behind… ”
At some point it will come the time when you need to make your decision whether you keep turning the pages or you better close the book … We always get interested and excited to know the end of the story …. That’s why we keep turning the pages although we know that all the pages are the same.
The reason for closing books in our life is not always because we want to, sometimes it is because we have to.
The reason for closing books in our life is not always because we want to, sometimes it is because we have to.
” To leave a place, is to die a little”
(French proverb)
when I got the feeling that me and that place are slowly releasing each other,
we are not caring enough for each other ….
we are not taking enough from each other …
we are not giving enough to each other …
we are not understanding enough each other ….
I knew that it is time to get separated and disconnected from each other ….
When all the days started feeling the same …
and all the pages started looking the same ….
I knew that it is time to close the book and leave.
Me and the place both made our decision at the same time, the same day, the same moment, I knew at that moment that she made her decision and she knew at the same moment that I took mine ….
we were both waiting for the right time …. it took months to reveal it, but the disclosures were both made at the same time, the same day, the same moment …
the place became very tight for me …
I just needed more space to grow bigger …. and more space to open my wings and fly … fly as far as my vision could reach
all I needed actually was more support.
Loving a place sometimes leads to loving all the places around, and …. leaving a place in some cases requires leaving all the places around.
That place was not a work place for me, it was a life place ….
There … I was born again, I lived again, I gave what I never gave in any other place, and I gained what I never gained in any other place.
In that place I experienced all kinds of feelings and all kinds of emotions,
In that place … I lost things and found things, I destroyed things, and I built up things,
In that place I was exposed to all kinds of different cultures and mindsets.
In that place I learned how to love, how to think, how to take, and how to give in new ways.
In that place I surprizingly discovered new realities about myself, that I wouldn’t have discovered without existing there.
Everything in that place helped me to learn how to create a new me, how to deal with a new me, how to support the new me, and how to accept that new me…
In that place I discovered the deep significance of the whole human existence.
That place was simply …. larger than life, and all those people were simply larger than life.
How can anything or anyone be larger than life??? ….
life is large !!!!
You can be larger than life when you create a new life for somebody on the top of their life ….
You can be larger than life when you give a significance to somebody’s life when they loose it ….
You can be larger than life when you help to create the right connection for someone looking for connection …. and even when they leave the connection will continue to be there.
You can never truly and completely leave a place …. and you will never be completely be at home again ….
because, part of your heart will always be elsewhere …
That is the price you pay for the richness of knowing and loving people in more than one place ….
And when you leave a place you will take the story of that place with you, and the essence of all the characters …. and you will leave that unique person you were in that place and you will never be the same person elsewhere.
When you are not there any more, even the place, the space and the air feel lonely, they all miss your breath …
(Written by Amel Abada, ”for the place I loved …” )
”Never blame yourself for leaving if there is no reason to stay …”
(Amel Abada)
(Amel Abada)
I know… may be you have forgotten all about me, but I still exist, for sure not in your world, but in the actual world… I was definitely not pleased that the story I have created one day with a big portion of love came quickly to an end…
”People don’t miss you when you leave … they miss you when you move on …”
I did not want it to end … but, when one of your stories in life is ending … go back and listen to it, see it for the mystery it is … in the boredom and pain of it, no less than in the excitement and gladness … find, touch, taste, and smell your way to the heart of it… and re-create it if it is a worthwhile …but unfortunately most of our life stories are not…
I imagine … when you remember me, it will be all about that mysterious woman … It is ok sometimes to be a mysterious person for others, and it is ok to live a life others don’t understand …. it is ok to look at that crazy view, and it’s ok to listen to that crazy song, and why it can be a matter if you decide to go there … to that crazy place where you can feel the infinity…go if you really want to feel it, no matter how long the way could be … there are, in fact, no shortcuts to any place worth going …. go, and never be afraid in the pursuit of what sets your soul on fire…
People think that driving the vehicle of life is determined by how well you are using your accelerator … it is not … it is all about how well you are using your brakes … they are more crucial… At some point I decided to use my brakes and change my direction … I am taking a different way now, and starting a journey of thousands of miles away, but I am glad that I drove one day in the area where you exist … your existence always made me happy… that’s why I am keeping it inside ‘’mes profondeures’’
One day, we will all look back and realize that we worried too much about things that don’t really matter … and figure out that life is not about feeling good … life is much more about being good at feeling…but still, life is a grace itself, and every moment is a key moment in your story … and people in the end, will regret the chances they didn’t take …
I suppose in the end the whole of life becomes an act of letting go, but what always hurts the most is not taking a moment to say goodbye…
(Amel Abada, Jan 2018)
I imagine … when you remember me, it will be all about that mysterious woman … It is ok sometimes to be a mysterious person for others, and it is ok to live a life others don’t understand …. it is ok to look at that crazy view, and it’s ok to listen to that crazy song, and why it can be a matter if you decide to go there … to that crazy place where you can feel the infinity…go if you really want to feel it, no matter how long the way could be … there are, in fact, no shortcuts to any place worth going …. go, and never be afraid in the pursuit of what sets your soul on fire…
People think that driving the vehicle of life is determined by how well you are using your accelerator … it is not … it is all about how well you are using your brakes … they are more crucial… At some point I decided to use my brakes and change my direction … I am taking a different way now, and starting a journey of thousands of miles away, but I am glad that I drove one day in the area where you exist … your existence always made me happy… that’s why I am keeping it inside ‘’mes profondeures’’
One day, we will all look back and realize that we worried too much about things that don’t really matter … and figure out that life is not about feeling good … life is much more about being good at feeling…but still, life is a grace itself, and every moment is a key moment in your story … and people in the end, will regret the chances they didn’t take …
I suppose in the end the whole of life becomes an act of letting go, but what always hurts the most is not taking a moment to say goodbye…
(Amel Abada, Jan 2018)
Create your healing place …
Your healing place …
Your healing place could be any place in the world, it could be far … it could be close, it could even be the place where you are sitting right now …. Your healing place is the place where you feel most connected to the universe ….. it is the place where you can deeply connect to the air, to the ground, to the sounds to the smells, and to every other living thing around … and feel all kinds of sensations created on earth ….
” Your hearing sense creates your healing moments …..”
” Music gives a soul to the universe … wings to the mind … flight to the imagination … and life to everything …”
(Plato)
(Plato)
Your sense of sight creates your healing moments …
The incredible wonders of the nature make your moments joyful. Watching the colorful flowers moving is a dance that your eyes never get tired of, their beauty immerses you, with color, taste, feelings and touch.
Nature creates seduction, and temptation,
it is something that you can fall in love with …it opens your heart, it makes you realize that your are part of it … it makes you feel connected to it and to all other existing species …
watching and feeling the wonders of the nature catches your attention, makes you present and mindful …
it connects with something deep inside your soul, it creates a gateway for your inner voice to rise up and be heard saying ” oh my god !!” ,
it makes you feel connected to the universe …
and it makes you feel celebrating life.
Through your eyes, your brain takes the electrical impulse that comes from light energy and creates images, to make it possible for you to explore the world ….
Your heart feels the vibrations that allow you to feel the pleasure and the beauty of nature …
Nature’s beauty is a gift that cultivates appreciation, gratitude and joy … it reveals happiness and heals all your heart’s little holes…. Nature can be without doubts a healing place for your mind, your heart, your soul and your body …
A landmark study of patients recovering from gall bladder surgery showed that patients who enjoyed views of nature from their rooms left hospitals a full day sooner than patients with views of brick walls. Among the many possible reasons for this healing effect: exposure to sunlight creates vitamin D, which plays a key role in boosting the immune system.
Another body of research suggests that full spectrum sunlight can reduce symptoms of depression and improve mood. In two studies of patients hospitalized for depression, those in bright, sunlit rooms left the hospital two to three days earlier than those in dim rooms.
Viewing a sweeping vista or an interesting scene may also produce a positive mood, and help us shift from a stressful mode to one of relaxation. Certain scenes are graded as beautiful or preferred, such as a mountain view, a horizon, a forest or a stream, according to research. One theory holds that when you view a beautiful or dynamic scene, it stimulates a region of the brain that contains a high density of endorphin receptors, producing feelings of pleasure.
When you feel that all you need is some vitamin ”sea” …
Your life is just like the sea, you are moving without stop, nothing stays with you, nothing in your life stays the same, the constant change is the reality of your life, what remains is the memories of people who impacted your life. When you live most of your life beside the sea, the most thing you miss the rest of your life is the sea, not only the view, not only the smell , not only the sound of the waves, not only when the sea is calm and not when the waves are big .... but what you miss is the deepness of life that you can see in it, and the vision that can take you beyond the horizon.
When I was young, I would always have a shell in my pocket and sand in my shoes ….
” The sea always has a way of putting things into perspective …”
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Inside the arena …
On the 23rd of April, 1910, Theodore Roosevelt delivered his speech ” Citizenship in a Republic ” at the Sorbonne in Paris, France. The speech sometimes referred to as ” The Man in the Arena ”.
This is the passage that made the speech famous:
This is the passage that made the speech famous:
“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better.
The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again.
Because there is no effort without error and short coming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause;
Who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly….”
The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again.
Because there is no effort without error and short coming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause;
Who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly….”